The Business of Being You
Exploring the hidden mechanics of self-betrayal, authenticity, and self-love.
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Exploring the hidden mechanics of self-betrayal, authenticity, and self-love.
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Self-Reclaimation & The Haunting Nature of Inauthenticity
So… What are you in for? I’ll wager you’ve got some juicy, hot-mess combo of human f*ckery giving you hell, but fear not! You’re not doomed and healing is possible.
Whatever your conundrum may be, from relationships and love to purpose and prosperity, under the struggle lives one simple problem…
You’re not quite yourself.
Why? Because life is really just an infinite series of negotiations with other humans as we strive for security, approval, and control. Brought to you by a thing called survival, trading our authenticity for belonging, safety, and love is so engrained in the human experience that most people don’t even notice the ways they’re abandoning themselves.
And so we suffer, struggling to understand how to be, how to feel, how to conduct ourselves amongst 8 billion other humans with conflicting wants, needs, and desires… In the face of such pressure, behavior can become strategic, identity becomes performative, and love becomes conditional.
The result? The Authentic Self slowly disappears, creating a painful misalignment that relentlessly haunts us until we finally reclaim it.
So… If you find yourself feeling like something’s missing, wrong, or not quite right… Congratulations, friend! A) You’re a human, and B) You’re in the right place.
Being The Youest of Yous
According to D. Seuss, “There Is No One Alive Who is Youer Than You”, but the nature of life on this planet sets us up to believe that we need to change who we are in order to be worthy, to fit in, to belong, and to be loved.
Who you are right now… Is it really you? It may be mostly you, or partially you, but I’ll wager it’s not the Youest of Yous.
Any of these sound familiar?
Denying your own wants and needs to keep the peace, People-pleasing and co-dependency, Hiding your true feelings to avoid emotional conflict, Saying yes when you mean no, Difficulty knowing and communicating how you actually feel and what you really want, Inability to make and hold boundaries, Prioritizing other people’s comfort over yours, Feeling like you’re wrong if other people get upset, Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera…
All classic examples of self-betrayal. But it’s nobody’s fault. We’re plopped down into these bodies that don’t have instruction manuals and, BAM! Good luck surviving, sucka’!
And so we construct a persona, a False Self designed to safely navigate this crazy place. “You” is actually more of a psychological conglomerate of reactions based on all the ways the world has rejected you, hurt you, approved of you, or conditioned you. You’re a metaphorical Frankenstein, shaped by the world around you.
And so we unknowingly, inadvertently compromise our authenticity again and again because, well, that’s just how it’s worked here on this wonky planet for eons.
But it’s not working.
The good news? People are finding ways to hack the system and liberation is now up for grabs. So take it. Grab it by the balls and let’s go.
Want to know how it works?
The Roadmap to Rebellion: Know Yourself → Be Yourself → Love Yourself
You can’t ‘become’ who you already are. You can only remove what you are not. -Ru Uru Hu
So, what can we do to heal and evolve? Far be it from me to suggest rebellion, but if liberation from the False Self – from the performing and pleasing and the pain of not living authentically – sounds good to you… We ride at dawn.
Here’s the plan:
Know Yourself
You’re born with a very particular geometry, a unique blueprint or design.This is your Authentic Self and from the moment you’re born, pretty much everything and everyone around you will inadvertently convince you that it’s not enough. As you come to know the way your energy is designed to work, you’ll see what you are and what you aren’t.
Be Yourself
Being yourself requires authentic behavior or the alignment of inner being and outer expression. We use the term “correct” to denote what’s natural and aligned for your design. Because your False Self is subject to outside conditioning, it hijacks the whole being-yourself-thing and we have to intentionally recognize and pivot from old patterns and proclivities.
Love Yourself
This is the grail you’re seeking; self-love is not something you can think or feel your way into, it’s a byproduct of living as your Authentic Self. It emerges via behavior that’s aligned with your true nature, and when you’re truly living as yourself… self-love blooms and you really come alive.
Of course, this is a simplified explanation of a very detailed quest, but now you know the way forward.
You ready for this? Hoist your sword, mount your steed, and book a session.
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